Excerpts from a Life

In the old days, my sister Rlynne, Mango and I would listen to the radio and write down the top 100 songs of the year, drink koolaid in wine glasses and eat a lot of junk food. This was the way it was before 1975 anyways, before "I grew up."

Happy New Years to you, my friends. May 2006 be a good one for you.

Let's see, where is the list?

Friendly Friday

Hi FFMB. I hope you are feeling energetic. We are going on a marathon march to all the featured friendless sites of 2005. Let's see how they are and then we will vote for our favorite site.

Don't worry, you don't have to stop at all these blogs today. March on by during the week and then choose your favorite from among them.

• Vote up to 3 times.
• Vote anonymously.
• Cast your vote before Friday.
• If you state why you chose that site then that vote will count twice as much!
• EDIT-To make this a real FFMB award, to vote you should be a member of the band. It is easy to join though. If you want to be a part of this amazing Friends of the Friendless Marching Band, sign up by leaving a comment stating that you want to be join and choose an instrument! Then come visiting the friendless with us on Friendly Fridays.
  

I want to take this time to thank you band members for bringing your friendliness to the march and throughout the week. The Friends of the Friendless Marching Band deserves an award too so. (See photo) We are the best!

Here are the featured friendless sites of 2005:

Mompoet Word from the 'Burbs
From the Edge to the Center
Over Another Hump
Estranged Love
Youssof's Sheeplog
Haunt Me
Whiskey Talking
Come Untogether
A Dose of Xtessa
Uncensored Soul
Are You Out There?
Tabitha Dial's Blog: Where the Muse Mutters
Quick and to the Point
Kat's Eye
Edge Gallery
All Cupcakes, All the Time

There is a trophy for the winner.

Banners are still available here and keep on submitting more friendless sites for 2006!

Can I Resist? (There are only two left)

Responding to this post on David's blog.

Hello, my name is Carol and I'm pretty sure I'm not a Blogaholic after all...

but for more info on the dangers of blogaholism, check out these sites.

Trekkies will remember this look at a 24th century addiction. Watch the video here.
Are you scared? Well, you should be!

For a more focussed look at internet addiction, look here for lots of good information. I did the quiz and passed. More proof that I am not a Blogaholic, at least not yet. How did you do?

The Thoughts Leave upon Examination

Sometimes I am anguished by thoughts that I am not good enough. Today as I listened to this familar refrain, I asked, exactly in what ways do I feel this way?

We were visiting with my in-laws yesterday. My Sister-in-Law is an excellent hostess while my Husband and I prefer to spend our free time with our children. Do I want to do entertain? Is there time as I work on Saturdays, the major entertaining day of the week?
I think about the time I spend with my own friends. We gather once a week and take turns hosting. At these times, I excel. Perhaps, I already have what I think I lack.

Again, this same Sister-in-Law is a great conversationalist. I envy people who converse well. I am a quiet person usually, except to a select few, of which you are a part. What can I do to get better at this? Confidence, I have been told. It is true that if I am anxious, I clam up and words come awkwardly. Relaxed, I am intelligent and self-assured, holding my own in a debate or friendly banter. Perhaps, I have most of what I need.

Again, dear Sister-In-Law is a world traveller while I am afraid to go on a plane or even cross the mountains. We do not have the funds to be jet-setters but we appreciate the area of the world where we live. I also enjoy movies and books of different cultures and meeting people with different points of view and backgrounds. Perhaps, being content is enough.

I am not my Sister-in-Law; I have my own interests and priorities. I can improve in areas if that is what I desire. Admiration doesn't have to lead to jealousy or beliefs of inferiority.

I am getting there.

Hebrews 2:9

"But we do see Him who was made for a little while lower than the angels, namely Jesus, because of the suffering of death crowned with glory and honor, so that by the grace of God He might taste death for everyone."

This passage emphasizes the purpose in Jesus coming to earth. He came to suffer and die as a sacrifice for humanity. To respond to Jesus and His purpose requires both faith and action.

Excerpts from a Life

Past excerpts tell of 15 year old Carol's crush on Chevy. Will they ever talk??

August 14, 1975
BORING again!!

Later...
CHEVY LIKES ME!! Oh man, I can't believe it. I'm so happy!! (Can't even remember how to hold a pen)
I was over at Mango's and Sherry, Rlynne (my sister), Mango and I were standing outside Mango's yard, waiting. Finally he drove by. Well, he sped up and jerked his car along. What a cute, lovable show off. He passed by again and Mango said, "There he goes again." His window was open and he heard. We both screamed of embarrassment! Then he rode by really slowly. Rlynne said "hi" after he passed. He passed by a couple or so more times. Everytime, he looked at me!!

Of course I still have me doubts but Mango said, "No way, he likes you." Same goes for Rlynne.
I'm very, very happy! Man and to think I was bored. Whew!

Hot Chocolate and Fries-A Canadian Tradition (or soon to be)

"God bless us everyone!"

Merry Christmas

Don't miss out on the Friendly Friday parade route below

Friendly Friday

Hi FFMB,
I am thinking whoever makes it to band tonight has to make alot of noise. Our numbers might be low with all the festivities going on. I thought we could meet back here for hot chocolate and fries.

Come on, smile Mango! Wait until its -30 C.

The featured friendless site this Friendly Friday is Rachel, Nichelle and Alizinha's All Cupcakes, All the Time. I like the cupcakes because:

• they look so yummy!
• I like the cupcake video.
• of all the cupcake links.
  
• I just felt like looking at pictures tonight.
• but how about more recipes for those that like to do more than just look?
• or could you just bring some for tonight's gathering?
  

Ella's owner writes No Friends, Just My Dog. She says she won't be writing much because she has a new job. Pity!

Meet Dave of A Bit of This, A Bit of That. He is a scientific intellectual. I did the same quiz and got the same results. In a couple of posts, he gives his view on creationism which is different than this scientific intellectual's. Check him out!

Get your banners here and remember to submit those friendless blogs.
Get marching folks and we'll meet back here, 'kay?

Thoughts

An orange cloudless melody
separates the stillness
casting notes to cover the night

Then the moment slips into day
lips joyfully proclaim
the rising of the sun

Hello, my name is Carol and I might not be a Blogaholic after all...

Earlier today as I was looking at some regular blogs, trying to feel inspired for a post, Mango phoned. I immediately turned from the computer to visit. I realized that I had just made a healthy choice.

Hey, I didn't even kick the kids off the computer.

Then I did this quiz and the results said
"You exhibit commendable self-control — you appear to lack most of the personality traits that can put you at risk for addiction. Continue to make smart choices by staying self-aware during difficult periods in your life, surrounding yourself with loving friends and maintaining a healthy lifestyle."

Well, these observations make me feel pretty good and you know what?

I am having fun.

My Name is Carol and I'm a Blogaholic...

I am not alone. I found this post which had a huge response from people stating their blogaholic symptoms. The whole idea was for fun but is any addiction harmless?

So, how do you keep your blogging under control? Or are you?

So How Did You Do?

Your Personality Is

Guardian (SJ) You are sensible, down to earth, and goal oriented. Bottom line, you are good at playing by the rules. You tend to be dominant - and you are a natural leader. You are interested in rules and order. Morals are important to you. A hard worker, you give your all at whatever you do. You're very serious, and people often tell you to lighten up. In love, you tend to take things carefully and slowly. At work, you are suited to almost any career - but you excel in leadership positions. With others, you tend to be polite and formal. As far as looks go, you are traditionally attractive. You take good care of yourself. On weekends, you tend to like to do organized activities. In fact, you often organize them!

The Three Question Personality Test

Your Brain's Pattern

Your mind is a multi dimensional wonderland, with many layers. You're the type that always has multiple streams of though going. And you can keep these thoughts going at any time. You're very likely to be engaged in deep thought - and deep conversation.

What Pattern Is Your Brain?

Your Hidden Talent

You are both very knowledgeable and creative. You tend to be full of new ideas and potential - big potential. Ideas like yours could change the world, if you build them. As long as you don't stop working on your dreams, you'll get there.

What's Your Hidden Talent?

The Practise

Fatigued
Negative

Time to meditate

She was in a care facility recently, after hip surgery. She raves about the care she received and how they taught her to walk again. She is only sorry that she lost it once when they were teaching her to go up and down the stairs. "That's understandable," I tell her.
She is 89 years old and partially blind. When I saw her in the hospital, she said she would walk into the church assembly again and she did. Everyone was amazed and happy to see her, looking frail but pleased as she held onto her husband up the aisle.
She told me that she is going to walk into the service on her own, "In maybe 6 months. Its all in your mind and in the prayers." (And in the physio exercises that she continues to do regularly)

I need some of her positive determination and asked for her prayers.

My legs were beginning to get uncomfortable but the 20 minutes were over. I remember her.

Matthew 8:21-22

"Another of the disciples said to Him, "Lord, permit me first to go and bury my father."
But Jesus said to him, "Follow me, and allow the dead to bury their own dead."

Following Jesus must take priority over everything else, even earthly responsibilities and cares can't take precedence over God's call to the spirit.

How do we answer the call to follow Jesus today?

Feelings and affections are not trustworthy guides but the Bible is. These Words teach us God's path. If you want to follow Him, give Him all your attention, now.

Excerpts from a Life

These are excerpts from my journal as a teenager. I had a crush on a boy called Chevy and I lost weight to in order to gain his attention.

July 19, 1975
Mom's always bugging me about my eating. I'm so mad!! Too skinny. (edited version)
Please God-I don't know.

July 23, 1975
I'm doing new exercises and keeping track of calories. I don't know if I should or not, its quite frustrating!!
Its one of those times when I'm conscious of swallowing my saliva!

August 9, 1975
I read a couple of stories about fat girls becoming thin and getting the guy of their dreams. In both of them, the guy was conceited. I wish I would get my guy already and I bet he won't be conceited.
I stopped exercising because of my sickness.
Rlynne (my sister) told Mango that Chevy must like me. Oh please, make him do something. I want him so much.

August 10, 1975
Throat is sorta sore or somethin'. Did exercises again. I wish I was well so I could go outside and walk around.

August 11, 1975
Mango came over in afternoon. We just talked and listened to the radio. Mango seems as if she's really sure of Chevy liking me.
Eating about 1500 calories a day. I should reach my goal of 115 lbs pretty soon. I hope my figure is all in shape for school. I want a 24" waist!

Friendly Friday

Welcome Friends of the Friendless Marching Band.
This was quite the week. I just about didn't make the march. I spent all day cleaning my tuba. I didn't know I could buy them.
Looks great though, doesn't it?




I can't wait for you to see these friendless sites.

The featured blogger this week is Emily at Edge Gallery.I like this blog because:

• of her words, "So, how tender can we bear to be? That is a hard one...but I'm trying to learn to do this, not just with words but by actions. And you do have to be a little brave, too. You have to sweep your shyness or hang-ups to the side and notice the details of a persons face and that they are there."
• she is an artist
• who teaches art to children
• I like her mischievious dog, Mr. Nelson

Take a look at Texas Gal of Texas Talk and Theory as well. She is a young woman who has written a wide variety of posts since 2002.

Now, there is time to do a survey for the FFMB. After you are finished, you might like to get a banner.

Do you visit the friendless blogs on Friendly Fridays?
	Yes, I am a member of the FFMB and I visit them every Friendly Friday.
	Yes, I am a member of the FFMB and I visit them whenever I think of it.
	Yes, I am a member of the FFMB and I never visit them. Why did I join?
	No, I am not a member of the FFMB but I visit the friendless blogs every Friendly Friday.
	No, I am not a member of the FFMB but I visit them whenever I think of it, anyways.
	No, I am not a member of the FFMB. What is the FFMB?
	No, I am not a member of the FFMB but I would like to be.
	I would become a member of the FFMB if I didn't have to be friendly.
	I will never be a member of the FFMB! It is degrading to the friendless.
Free polls from Pollhost.com

Housework on the Left or Right Side of the Brain?

Normally, I am a scheduler. My To Do list is arranged into daily, weekly, monthly and annual chores. I write down the incoming chores as they arise and try to fit them into the day. This does not necessarily mean that all gets done but it is listed regardless and I do my best. Except sometimes it gets too boring and rigid so I rebel against myself.

Then I toss the organizing notebook aside and wing it haphazardly but I have missed appointments doing it this way and forgotten to sign forms for school etc.

This has been an ongoing search for me-to find the ultimate To Do/Planning/Schedule System.
I really think there is a balance between these two extremes that would solve my dilemma.

Does anybody have any ideas to help me on this quest?

Not Another One

They are churning out these quizzes so quickly that they don't have time to think of questions or answers. This one has only 2 choices for each of the 4 questions.

Your Blogging Type is Confident and Insightful

You've got a ton of brain power, and you leverage it into brilliant blog. Both creative and logical, you come up with amazing ideas and insights. A total perfectionist, you find yourself revising and rewriting posts a lot of the time. You blog for yourself - and you don't care how popular (or unpopular) your blog is!

What's Your Blogging Personality?

Amazing how accurate it is, though.

Or Two

You Belong in London

A little old fashioned, and a little modern. A little traditional, and a little bit punk rock. A unique woman like you needs a city that offers everything. No wonder you and London will get along so well.

What City Do You Belong In?

She Went Snorkeling

Cassandra, a co-worker, was back from her Mexican holiday today. She recounted the adventures but this one lingers in my mind.

She was on a snorkeling tour, enjoying the fish beneath her feet, while resting safely on the rocks. Then their guide led them to deeper water where sand replaced the rocks. "This is alright," she thought while she was led deeper into the ocean.

She admitted to her curious listeners of having a fear of drowning.

She lagged behind for her swimming was weak. Then she saw only the vastness of the water before her.
"Then, I lost it, a panic attack," she confessed. She was taken back to the shore.

Everyone was quiet but as I took tiny little bites of my sandwich, I saw her ocean before me.

A Sevens Meme

Okay Kathy, here it is...


Seven things to do before I die:
1. I want to be a Kokum. (Native word for Grandma)
2. Hold my Great-Grandchildren.
3. Finish my book of Native short stories. (I only have one written so far)
4. Have those home renovations done.
5. Finish interior decorating my home.
6. Overcome anxiety!
7. Grow in understanding the Bible.

Seven Things I can not do.
1. Take a computer apart and reassemble.
2. Change the engine oil.
3. Drive in a motor race and win.
4. Fly a rocket to the moon.
5. Upholster the couch and chair.
6. Re-shingle the roof.
7. Get the To Do list caught up.

Seven Things that attracted me to my spouse: (if you are married, that is)
1. Smile
2. Eyes
3. Gentleness
4. Compatibility
5. Patience
6. Loyalty
7. Easy going

Seven things that I say most often:
1. Get off the computer; I want to check my blog. (son)
2. Don't you have any homework? (eldest daughter)
3. There's my pretty girl. (to our cat)
4. Aw, come on. (friends)
5. I've got an idea. (friends)
6. Could you .....? (husband)
7. I am so glad... (blogfriends)

Seven Books I love:
1. The Bible
2. Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy
3 Great Expectations by Charles Dickens
4. To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee
5. Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austin
6. Rebecca by Daphne DuMaurier
7. Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte

Seven Movies I watch over and over:
1. Pride and Prejudice (mini-series)
2. Sound of Music
3. To Kill a Mockingbird
4. To Sir With Love
5. Babycakes (Ricky Lake starred in this tv movie before she lost weight. It is about a overweight woman who has a crush on a guy and plots to win him)
6. That's Entertainment series
7. Jesus Christ Superstar (I haven't watched it lately, but I watched it innumerable times when I was a teenager)

Seven People I Tag to join me:
I know that you both don't have a blog but I hope that this won't stop you. Put your answers in the comment section. Come on, please...
1. Mango
2. Zeb
I will leave the rest blank in the hope that 5 enthusiastic bloggers will take up the Sevens challenge. If so, I will put your names and a link here.
3. Stephen
4. Barbara
5. Jennifer
6.
7.

Overcoming Anxiety

"Anxiety in a man's heart weighs it down,
But a good word makes it glad." Proverbs 12:25

I realize that I have to be able to give these "good words" to myself. What I tell myself either encourages or discourages. The effect is is clearly felt in my heart, either way.

The book I have been reading, "Don't Panic" by R. Reid Wilson, Ph.D. talks about developing within onself, a supportive observer.
This new inner voice :

• "reminds me of my freedoms and choices"
• "gives me permission to feel safe"
• "supports all my efforts"
• "invites me to feel confident"
• "trusts me and lets me trust myself"
• "expects a postive future"
• "points out my successes"
• "looks around me for support"
• "believes that I can change"
  

Over the years, people have told me, "Don't be so hard on yourself." I understand, now, that they didn't mean that I shouldn't be honest with myself about my weaknesses but that I was too harsh with myself about them. Wilson refers to these voices as negative observers-worried, critical or hopeless. My negative obervers are the worried and critical type.

My soul desires honesty, gentleness and kindness from someone very important to me. Myself.

Excerpts from a Life

Every Saturday, I invite you to meet 15 year old Carol who is dieting in the hopes that thinness will win the boy of her dreams, Chevy.

June 2, 1975
Today I weigh 130 lbs.

June 13, 1975
Today I thought I was over Chevy. I told Laurie and JoAnne that I was. Then I got to thinking of him and all of sudden I felt sad that I thought that. So I went and told Laurie that it wasn't over, not for awhile anyways.

June 19, 1975
I got 100% in Geometry. I am so glad. The other kids clapped when they found out and Bonnie K. shook my hand. I'm really proud.

June 20, 1975
Went to Mango's in the evening. We went to the park and swung. Summer, you're beautiful.
I'm trying not to think about Chevy. I'm getting an honor pin, hurray!

June 22, 1975
Went to church. I haven't been for such a long time.
Rlynne, Mango and I went for a walk in the afternoon. We met Cindy and Aline. Cindy said, "Do you look good." So we all went walking around.
I saw Chevy's car coming and there were two people in it. I got kinda scared. When he passed, he looked at me. I just glanced at him cause I wanted to see who the other person was. Luckily it was only his Dad.
Rlynne whispered, "He's looking at you."
After he passed the corner, he really sped up.
Mango said, "Did you see the way he was looking?" I thought she meant it was a dirty look so I didn't answer. Then she said, "It doesn't look as if he hates you."
That made me very happy.

Friendly Friday

Hi FFMB.
Every week the sound of our marching band grows more distinctive. The addition of the harmonica and kazoo to the march was ingenious and you gotta love that piano on wheels. I can't help but feel proud of our unique marching band.

Sigh...yes, well, time for today's parade route. Follow me ...
Enjoy the visits and leave friendly comments along the way.



The featured site of the week is from Kim at Kat's Eye. I like her blog because:

• she is a great writer
  
• she continues to hone her craft
  
• her strength and patience in dealing with a very hard life right now
• she hopes that " writers, artists, and others juggling work, family, and life's challenges will pull up a keyboard and chime in, creating a dialogue, and finding and sharing inspiration"

You'll enjoy SoccerChic from Fighting against the Box. She is an Eastern Canadian who is trying to adjust to her move out west.
Dwayne from My Life in Bonanza would like your company, too. He is a friendly fellow who likes to fish and hunt. He likes the Bible, too!

We sure would like new band members. Simply leave a comment, stating which instrument you would like to play and join us each Friendly Friday as we go visiting the friendless.

Banners are available here to promote the Friends of the Friendless Marching Band.
Remember to nominate the great friendless sites you find this week.
Have fun!

My Hairdresser

I have been going to Monika for the past 14 years. I had previously experienced the worst haircut of my life from one of those McHaircut places. The woman who had given the cut explained that the reason my hair was sticking up was because it naturally grew that way. Okay...

I phoned a new hair salon that I had seen and after explaining the bad experience I had, I told her that I wanted the best person there. The girl wisely gave me an appointment with the salon's owner, Monika. Monika was single then, outgoing and a fantastic hairdresser.

It was a habit, back then, to have a night out with my Husband after getting my hair all nicely styled. Monika would give good suggestions on where to eat, what movie to see etc. After all, she was single and with it.

After my husband gave our eldest daughter a haircut, I started taking her to Monika. Then, when the middle girl had hair, I took her too. I thought, might as well make it a family affair, and my little guy would sit on a booster pad to get his hair cut. He didn't like getting his hair blown dry though. My Husband wasn't about to go to a hair salon but he did take the kids sometimes. Monika would comment how they were quieter when he brought them.

She since has gotten married, bought a house and moved her shop to her home. She has two children. She is no longer an expert on where to go for a night out but knows where the bargains are and where to go for family holidays.

Her sister dated Brad Pitt when he was here in the city several years ago before he was as famous as he is now. Monika told me that he came to her house for perogies. He had never eaten them before.

She inherited land and a hotel in Costa Rica a couple of years ago. She goes there every few months and makes it known that they might move there some day. She is in the process of having the hotel demolished to build condos.

The sound of her voice and the concern in her voice remind me of Oprah Winfrey. I told this once and she said she had been told that before.

I asked her about Costa Rica again today. I am still trying to get used to the idea.

Being Kind to Me

1. I let myself go back to sleep after the kids were gone for school. I have not been sleeping well, lately. I had planned to get groceries but I told myself it was okay to leave it until the afternoon. I woke up 2 hours later with guilt pangs which I chose to dismiss. Now is the time to practice compassion. Being stressed is not a sign of success.
2. I went to a grocery chain where they pack the groceries and push the cart to your vehicle. It cost more but the savings were luxurious.
3. My daughter volunteered to make a casserole for ourselves, also doubling the recipe for a family from church. It is an easy recipe and will let her experience the feeling of a generous spirit. By allowing her to do this, I am being blessed, too.
4. Planned procrastination days are allowed, but unplanned ones are even better.
   
5. Introspection hurts as hidden thoughts surface. It is healing to face them but, in kindness to myself, I mustn't dwell there too long. It is comforting to visit someone else's thoughts and circumstances for a change.
6. When I look around and think that everyone is dealing with life so much better than I, then it is in kindness for myself that I say, appearances can be attractively deceptive. If I could see the struggling inward souls, then I would not think myself any worse.
   

My Name is Carol and I'm a Blogaholic...

If you gotta tell people that this is supposed to be funny, then I'm in trouble, right?

I am on Blogexplosion which is a web site that is supposed to help bloggers increase traffic. A few nights ago, I woke up in the middle of night and, this was not a good idea but I succumbed, I turned on the computer. I was attracted to the Shoutbox which is a message board on BE for (lonely and insomniac?) bloggers.
Unfortunately, it was fun. So last night, when I once again found myself awake at 2:30 am, you have a clue to what I did. This feels like the hard stuff, you know?

Band Update

Great news for the FFMB!
All 3 of the bloggers from the last Friendly Friday have joined the band. Is that not the greatest?

Sister Celtic will be playing the cymbals.
Ry wants to play the harmonica.
Sabrina will be on the snare drum.

Winter (Haiku)

shivering winds
swirl unscarfed snowflakes
to cool the breath

Inspired to write a haiku by J. Andrew

I Love Quizzes

Your results:
You are Superman

Superman 65% Wonder Woman 55% Hulk 55% Spider-Man 55% Robin 52% Supergirl 45% Batman 45% The Flash 40% Green Lantern 30% Catwoman 25% Iron Man 15%

You are mild-mannered, good, strong and you love to help others.

Click here to take the "Which Superhero are you?" quiz...

The Noble Princess

You are just and fair, a perfectionist with a
strong sense of proper decorum. You are very
attracted to chivalry, ceremony and dignity.
For the most part you are rather sensible, but
you are also very idealistic.

Role Models: Guinevere, Princess Fiona (of Shrek)

You are most likely to: Get kidnapped by a stray
dragon.


What Kind of Princess are You? - Beautiful Artwork (Original Music is BACK!!!)
brought to you by Quizilla

2Timothy 2:15

"Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth."

I am a student of God.
For many years, I believed what I was taught as a child about God. Then I encountered the Bible and learned that what I was taught was not what the Bible said. I had to let go of what I had always thought. This was not easy.

The Bible can be understood.

Hey, I've Been Smacked!!

There is a blog called "Talk Too Much (if you don't like oh well)" that reviews other blogs mercilessly. I didn't ask for a review because I am so sensitive (sob) but somehow they found me and gave me 2 smacks. That is what they do when they don't like your blog. At least I didn't get 5 smacks!

For those courageous, you can submit your blog for review.

N.B.
I stand corrected. A smack is a good thing. 5 smacks are the best! I noticed there were even some reviews with negative smacks.

IMPORTANT UPDATE
I have been upgraded to 3 smacks because I am nice!

Excerpts from a Life

On Saturdays, I post excerpts from my journal. I am still at 1975 when I was 15 years old and had a huge crush on a boy I called Chevy. I thought I could win his heart by losing weight. Mango was my best friend. I mentioned on this past Thursday's post that Mango and I used to ask questions of one another and write them down. This was similar to the question memes that are quite prevalent on many of the blogs today. Mango and I called them "ballots" and we did them every month.

The following is a composite ballot of questions that Mango asked me way back then:

1. Why do you like doing these ballots?
"I don't know. I like asking questions, I like answering questions. Sometimes you can ask questions that you wouldn't ask off-hand."

2.If Chevy talked to you and you found that he likes you; how would you tell me?
"I would run up the road, twirling around, you'd know!"

3. Do you honestly and truly mean to be Chevy's steady?
"Maybe not go steady but dating him. I gotta play the field."

4. Do you think you're a serious person?
"At school, during classes."

5. What song would you like our "talented" group, Trilogy, to try?
"Lady Marmalade" (Yikes)

6. Do you believe in women's lib?
"Yes, I do."

7. Do you think you're a funny person, even just a little funny?
"Yeah, I guess so, a little bit."

8. Would you like to sing for an audience?
"Yes"

9. Would you like to direct a performance of Jesus Christ, Superstar if you had a chance?
"I wouldn't want to direct. I'd want to sing!"

10. (We had given a tape of our singing to the music teacher at Mango's school, Mr. Klassen. My older sister had also sent a copy of this tape to Lorne, a fellow she knew who was in a band and needed backup singers.)If Mr. Klassen or that Lorne guy says we're good, well, good enough to make it, would you be really and honestly determined to do it?
"Yes, I think so, if we could get a band."

11.Do you think we could make it, let's say we have a band, could we?
"If I'm not the lead singer, I think so."

12.What would you do if I started liking Chevy? (Just wondering)
"I'd wonder why, first of all, then I would get very upset and try to discourage you or something. I wouldn't talk to you for awhile."

13. Do you really like that story I wrote, not just because it of was of you and Chevy, but the way I wrote it?
"Yeah, but get a plot." (always the critic)

14. If Lorne says we're good, what will Trilogy do?
"Nothing, what can we do? We don't have a band!"

15. What do you think of my fake smile? (Mango was practising for the school photos. Don't be mad at me, Mango)
"It looks better than going like your last year's picture!" (Would you still be friends with this person?? I should interject that the purpose of the ballot was honesty)

16. What is your career ambition and your secret ambition?
"To be an artist and have a lot of boyfriends!"

17. How do you say good-bye very formally?
"I would like to thank Mango for this ballot and say farewell to all the people who have sneaked in my diary!"

Friendly Friday

Hello Friends of the Friendless Marching Band!! I took my tuba with me on my trip so I could be all practised up for today. I see you have been practising as well. That's good, because a band is only as good as its members.

Join up now to be a member of the band. Just leave a comment stating which instrument you would like to play. Then return Friendly Fridays to go visiting the friendless.

The featured friendless site is Sabrina at Quick and to the Point. I chose her blog because I like:

• her honesty
• that she desires a communal village (she wrote about this in her first blog entry)
• that her blog is a way for her to deal with her struggles and feelings
  
• she is coping with a bipolar disorder
  

Also check out Ry and her cuddly kitty, KC, at Justme and my Midnight Thots.
Then visit Sister Celtic at Lopez Island Life.

There have been excellent nominations lately but I still want more...
Get your banner here.
Have fun!

I Love Questions

In 1975, Mango and I used to ask questions to one another and write our answers down. These questions, which I have found from fellow bloggers, remind me of those times.
I found these questions through Moira at Blue Abstractions.

1. Were you named after anyone?
I was named for my Father's Mother's sister. However, obviously this was my Father's choice as my Mother never called me by that name. I became known as Carol, which is really my middle name.
However,I named my eldest daughter by that original name. I also like a Canadian artist who was named this as well.

2. When did you last cry?
Yesterday, on the way back from my Grandmother's funeral.

3. What is your most embarrassing CD?
I don't have a lot of CD's; I have more LP's. Am I embarrassed by my Partridge Family albums? Hmm... Nah, I still like hearing, "I Think I Love You"!

4. Have you ever told a secret you swore not to tell?
I don't believe so. I have a hard time keeping anything from Mango though.

5. How do you release anger?
I take my irritability out on people that are more forgiving and understanding than those that don't really know me. (ie family and friends)
I vent to the same.

6. Do you trust others too easily?
Yes but I am trying to be more observant.

7. What class in high school do you think was totally useless?
Cosmetology. I didn't appreciate the difficulty of the quizzes where we had to label all the muscles of the face. The scalp massages were nice though, so I guess it wasn't totally useless.

8. Do you use sarcasm a lot?
No, I am too obvious with it and don't like to be caught.

9. Favorite movie(s):
I have enjoyed many movies but never know what to answer for this. As a child I really liked "Thomasina" and "Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory". As a teenager, my favorite movie was "Jesus Christ, Superstar." My Husband and I enjoy old movies such as "Dark Victory" which starred Bette Davis. This was about a woman who had a brain tumor and how she dealt with her approaching death.

10. Which celebrity do you most resemble?
I have been asked if I was Sally Field once or twice.

11. What are your favorite colors?
I enjoy many colors. I tend to get tired of the color, if I choose just one.

12. What are you listening to right now?
The kids are home from school and have the television on.

13. What is the weather like right now?
It is getting winter cold now. -20C. There is packed snow on the roads sprinkled with gravel. I am glad to be inside.

14. Favorite Drink?
I drink a lot of water and carry a water bottle with me everywhere.

15. Favorite Food?
I like turkey and pumpkin pie. I like food that someone else has cooked usually but sometimes there is a recipe that surprises me with its tasty combination of herbs and spices.

16. Spring or Summer?
What is one without the other?

17. Hugs or kisses?
I like hugs that aren't obligatory.

18. Where would you want to go on your next vacation?
If I didn't have to go on an airplane, boat or over mountains, I would like to anywhere.

19. What books are you reading?
"On the Rez" by Ian Frazier. It takes me forever to read; it takes up my blogging time! I still want to finish "30 Days to a More Powerful Vocabulary." My Sister, who I just saw, likes to play games on the computer. One she found was on vocabulary so we played against the computer. I was pleased to see that my vocabulary is actually getting better even though I don't use a lot of the words in my regular speech.
Also, "Don't Panic" by R. Reid Wilson is on the pile of books, I'm still reading.

20. What did you Watch Last Night on TV?
I don't watch a lot of tv. My Daughter said last week, as I was flipping through the channels, "I know Mom is really sick when she is watching tv."

21. What's the furthest you've been away from home?
I have been to Europe but the farthest I have felt is when I moved away from home on my 18th birthday.

I'm Home

When Grandparents leave this world, often there is a literal branching off of the family tree. Aunts, uncles and cousins separate into their own section and there is not as much contact anymore except at funerals and weddings. So it is not only your Grandmother/Grandfather that you are losing.

For an introvert like me, the day after the funeral, I would have been content to stay cocooned with my Sister and her family but my Father's siblings entered my thoughts. They were hurting the most.

And is so often the case, these visits became a blessing to me.

My Aunt and her Husband were so happy to see us. My Husband surprised me by accepting a shot glass of whiskey but I protested when he was offered a second. There was laughter. Eyes were tender and real.

Then we visited my Father's younger Brother. He and his Wife were alone when we first arrived but soon two of their daughters appeared, one with her two young sons. As my Uncle held his Grandson, his family separated into their own family tree right before my eyes.

I am going to hold them to their invites though and help keep the forest alive. My Grandmother would have liked that.

Band Update

Hello FFMB! This is an update to the band roster.

psst... will you do me a favor while I am out of town for a few days? Will you visit your fellow band members and get to know them through friendly comments? (I know you are all good at that!)

The list is from newest to the oldest member:

J. Andrew Lockhart (jal for short) is the newest member. We finally have a trombone player and he will also be the instrument repair man. Wow!
Kathy plays the tenor saxaphone. Isn't she great?
Azure is a new member that plays the mandolin.
Rhiannon is the pianist. She plays really mean marching tunes. (I mean really friendly marching tunes!)
Mompoet is the faithful kazooist.

Mango is the flag bearer and a very good one, too. She can be reached through my comments as she is a blog groupie with no blog of her own!

Pearl plays the korean drums every Friday, well..sometimes she is a little late but I know I can count on her.
Barbara is the flutist and man, can she play!
Stephen plays the baritone. He keeps everyone in line when we act up on the bus.
Erin is a drummer as well. She is a little whacky but we like whacky in the FFMB.

Zeb is the guitarist. He doesn't say much but he is pretty cool all the same. Reach him through my comment section.

Raehan, the thoughtful accordionist. She sent in a note excusing herself for the month.

Some of the members have regularly missed band performances for the last few months. I continue to hope that they will show up again some day but until then I will remove their names... gasp... from the roll call.

Acts 2:32

"This Jesus God raised up again, to which we are all witnesses."

Peter, the apostle, spoke these words to the people in Jerusalem that had seen Jesus' crucifixion.
The witnesses that Peter referred to were himself and the other apostles; Jesus had appeared to them after His death.

Two of the reasons we accept history as truth is because of the reliability of the eyewitnesses and the documents they wrote.

Excerpts from a Life

I have been posting entries from my journal on Saturdays. In 1975, Mango and I were best of friends, teenagers and just a bit boy-crazy. I still had that crush on Chevy. Mango, my sister Rlynne and I formed a band called Trilogy. We were the singers. Unfortunately, there were no musicians. Mango and I did have a creative imagination however and created a magazine called Outrageous that chronicled Trilogy's success story.

For $5.00 CND, come on...

I trust that you know how to enlarge these pics! Notice the t-shirts that Mango and I are wearing.

Here is a poster of Chevy and I!!

Friendly Friday

Looking through the archives...


The march goes on, my Friends.

The featured Friendless site of the week is Tabitha Dial at Tabitha Dial's Blog: Where the Muse Matters. I like her blog because

• she likes the old song "Memphis." This is one of my favorites.
  
• she made a "I Like That I Am..." list.
• she started writing fiction at 9 years about girls rescuing boys!
• she's a poet. There is a link to her poems. D'ya see it?
  

Check out Kathy at Lazy Daisy Log.She is the newest member in the Friends of the Friendless Band, playing the tenor saxaphone. I hope everyone will make her feel comfortable on her first Friendly Friday!

J. Andrew Lockhart from Past Tense, blogs haiku and tanka. Give him a visit, as well.

New members, choose your instrument! There will a band update this coming week with a list of the band members.

Get your banner here and remember to submit the friendless sites you find this week. Have a friendly day. Now get going...

My Grandmother passed away this morning. Thanks for all the kind thoughts.

So Fine

I was having problems with the video, so I removed it for now. Sorry to disappoint all the McCartney fans!

Baby Carol

I Love You, Too

Grandma would tell me that I ran to her. Grandpa liked to tease and I was too shy for that. Grandma's gentleness was more to my liking.

When we were back home this summer, we went visiting relatives with my Grandmother. At one stop, she was into a deep conversation with a young cousin of mine from the reserve. I couldn't help but ask afterwards what they were talking about. She said that the little boy was talking about being bullied. She told him that he was intelligent and that the others were just jealous of him.

My Grandma is in the hospital now, not expected to live much longer. I am unable to be with her as she is in another province but I talked to her tonight. She couldn't answer but my sister, who was at her bedside, said she wanted to speak. I know what she wanted to say though and I will always be grateful for the many times she said it and the many ways she showed it.

Turandot

My Husband and I went to our first opera, Turandot. This was written by an Italian composer, Puccini and was first performed in 1918.

It is about a beautiful Chinese princess, Turandot, who does not want to to marry because of a female ancestor who was mistreated by an enemy of war. Turandot reluctantly agrees to accept proposals of suitors but will only marry them if they correctly answer three riddles. If they fail, they are beheaded.
The story follows one particular prince, Calaf, who is enamored with her divine beauty and sounds the gong thrice indicating his desire to try for her hand.

The stage settings were splendidly stark; the cast decorated the stage. The emperor was lit in gold above the teeming citizens that were clad in grey. The voices were strong and spellbinding while the story's music moved slowly to the climax, steadily and fearlessly.

This debut has given me a desire for more.

Hebrew 10:24-25

"And let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near."

Christians ought to desire to be together, especially on the Lord's Day. The reason to assemble is not for an empty ritual but to show love to God and the brethren.

The Christians being admonished here in Hebrews were the ones that didn't believe in meeting regularly with other Christians. Perhaps they had a disagreement with someone or were disillusioned by hypocrisies or sinfulness in the Church. However, in the New Testament, these relationships were important and disagreements or misunderstandings had to be worked out. This is true today as well. A Christian is defined by God's Word and there are no lone Christians in the Bible.

"So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity." Colossians 3:12-14

Excerpts from a Life

The following are taken from my journals as a teenager. I was a secret admirer of Chevy and losing weight steadily in hopes of capturing his heart.
My friend, Mango and I are exploring our creativity.

April 9, 1975
Wouldja believe I was in the hospital since Sunday. I passed out on Sunday. The doctor says I have low blood sugar.

April 20, 1975
Millions of things to write about are passing through my mind. I don't mean for my journal but for stories. I wrote a poem called "One Year Ago Today." I'm not finished it yet. Yes, I feel inspired to write...

May 15, 1975
Saw Cindy and Aline uptown. Cindy said, "Do you ever look great. I bet all the boys are after you." haha

May 20, 1975
Before typing, JoAnne and I were talking to Laurie in typing. Chevy was in there! For a long time, he never looked up then he finally quit typing and rested his chin on his hands and watched. Oooh, my legs turned into jelly.
Mrs. Krislock, art teacher, asked me if I would like to draw something for the Reinbolt Exhibition. Felt proud.

June 1, 1975
Went to Mango's in the afternoon. We sang into the tape recorder with the records. (This was way before Karaoke!)
Our best song was "I Got the Music in Me".
Mango sings really good. She could make with her voice. I really mean that!
I sang "Love Lies Bleeding."
Mango keeps on telling me how great I sing. I'm flattered but I don't think I sound that great. Mango is the one with the great voice. She can get all the little notes I can't.
I wish our group, Trilogy, would make it!

Friendly Friday

Hello Friends of the Friendless Marching Band. I hope that today's nominated blogs will inspire you to leave heartening comments! If you haven't already, sign up today to be a friendly band member.




Read Dreaming Firefly's poetry in Glowing in the Dark, In Search of My Direction.

Read Celestial Void's meditative thoughts in Are You Out There ?

Visit Azure of Breakaway who encourages all bloggers when she says, "if u don't speak ur mind then hu will??;-)"



I chose Celestial Void as the featured site this Friendly Friday because I like:

• his searching for relevance in every day occurrences
  
• that he looks at the reality of life
• his poetry wonders
  
• when someone expresses their loss and wants to learn from it
  

Display your banner to show support for the Friends of the Friendless. Or do you think we should sell chocolates?
Start submitting friendless sites for the next Friendly Friday!

Beauty in Store

Old eyes
Orange hair
Orange poncho
High heels

I wonder at her confident brightness
pushing her cart past naive naked girls
who strategically compete with overflowing carts
of frozen fast pizzas and fries

I reach for the newspapers that catch these nude faces scowling
in their mundane existence,
not fringed smugly in orange
reaching for the People, on their day off

Following the shopper down the red worn carpet
the door automatically opens farewell
and I leave her in the parking lot as she clicks down the pavement
I shuffle off unmade

Oh yeah...

Your Blog Should Be Purple

You're an expressive, offbeat blogger who tends to write about anything and everything. You tend to set blogging trends, and you're the most likely to write your own meme or survey. You are a bit distant though. Your blog is all about you - not what anyone else has to say.

What Color Should Your Blog or Journal Be?

So You Like the Makeover...

Thanks for all the compliments, oh my...

I love "peas and carrots''! This is the name of this beautiful template by Richa. I may not be able to take credit for the new look but, boy, I put in a few hours, too. My Middle Daughter was a big help. There were a few problems with the graphics but after some figuring, tadaa...

There are still a couple of problem areas, but I hope to unglitch them someday. Its always those last few pounds...

Overcoming Anxiety

"Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpassses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things."
Philippians 4:6-8

Evidently anxiety is not a new problem. Some Biblical remedies for anxiety are:

prayer

thankfulness

positive thinking

Prayer is a well practised stress reliever. It turns the mind from the problem but don't think that God will magically change the situation. Often, there is work to do. Prayer can strengthen the heart to find solutions.

Thankfulness is a reminder of the blessings in our lives. It removes the desire to complain about the circumstances.

The mind is powerful but needs to be protected from constant negativity. Your body will reacte to whatever it is told.

God's advice is trustworthy. Faith is the trust a patient has for their doctor.

Today, I am the patient, trusting in the goodness of God to heal me. Faith is built through the trials of life.

"I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help.

My help cometh from the Lord, which made heaven and earth."
Psalm 121:1-2

Excerpt from a Life

These are journal entries from the 70's when I was in grade 10. I had a huge crush on a fellow I nicknamed Chevy and I went on a diet in hopes that he would like me.
Feb 17, 1975
"Boy, Chevy was really colorful today. He wore a purple top with a yellow shrink and these blue tweedy pants. It didn't look too good. Chevy's kinda skinny but it doesn't really matter."
Feb 26, 1975
"Didn't go to school. Same old thing again."

Feb 27, 1975
"Didn't go to school. Mango came over in the evening. Talked alot."
Feb 29, 1975 Saturday
"Well, Mango's off to a hockey game and I have to stay home because of my illness!"

March 24, 1975
"Well, I'm 140 lbs.

March 25, 1975
"Karen and I went to the cafeteria. Laurie and JoAnne were already in there. Laurie was mad because Chevy was watching them. His whole table was.
Karen sat beside Laurie and there was no place where I could sit where I could see Chevy so I just stood there. I was looking for him but couldn't see him. Then I saw him. He and his whole table got up and moved one table over, closer to ours it seemed to me.
I told Laurie that I had to talk to her so we walked out of the cafeteria. When we got back Karen said that Chevy watched me go out the door. I know its hardly anything but every little thing counts.
I am so sure that he likes me. Please!!"

Friendly Friday- Lest We Forget

Hello Friends of the Friendless Marching Band! I am so glad to see you all, eager to spread your good comments to fellow bloggers that are in need.

The featured site this Friday is Mary of Uncensored Soul.
I like her blog because:

• I like her template-I can't help it, I'm noticing templates a lot lately
• she reminds me of my journals as a young woman, except I never travelled to Egypt on a whim
• >she is simple like a circle
• one of her interests is marching bands, say no more
  

Check out Samantha's Daily Thoughts of a Sotonggal. She is from Malaysia with an honest and friendly blog.

Get your FFMB banners here!

Remember

Carol "Tha Book Keeper" Holynator

Yes, I made Teh Blogfather's Site of the Day!

Remember that talk about maxing out at The Bay

Yes, we have to keep our patriot happy!

Hudson's Bay, the official clothier for the Canadian Olympic Team

Email from my Sister " Do this if you want to but not necessary"

"This is fun. Hope I receive it back from you"

1. What time is it: 12:15 pm.

2.Nickname: Mom (this was my Sister's good answer)

3. Piercing: None.

4. What is the most recent movie you've seen in
theatre? Go For Zucker at a Film festival. This is the review I wrote for it:

"Go For Zucker" is a German film about a dysfunctional family whose father is a pool shark that owns a brothel/nightclub. He is in danger of losing everything when he receives a telegram that his Mother has died. His brother, an orthodox Jew, who he hasn't seen in 40 years is arriving with the coffin. There are stipulations in the will that he and his brother must reconcile. The wall must be broken. The gambling brother lived in Berlin while the orthodox brother lived in Frankfurt. My husband thinks there might be a symbolic connection with East and West Germany. Hmmm...

5. Eye color: brown (same as my Sister's answer again. Am I the copycat?)

6. Place of birth: A small prairie city (a city in my home province is any thing over a population of 5000).

7. Favorite NEW foods: I like trying out new recipes. The last one was "Chinese Chow". Want the recipe, little Sis?

8. Ever been to Africa:Nope. Why do you ask?


9. Love someone so much it made you cry: Yes, especially when they are no longer here.

10. Been in a car accident? Thankfully, only minor ones, all in the parking lot!

11: Favorite Movie: Toss up between Dark Victory starring Bette Davis and The Long Long Trailer with Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz.

12. Croutons or bacon bits: I use croutons more regularly than bacon bits. Actually I just put croutons on the grocery list a few minutes ago.

13. Favorite day of the week: Sunday!


14. Favorite restaurants: Foody Goody's- a Chinese Buffet. The kids love going there too not because they like Chinese food, for they don't, but they fill their plates with jello, pizza,(carrots so it looks healthy) and then ice cream etc.

16. Favorite Flower: gerber daisies









17. Favorite sport to watch: I don't like watching any, but I have watched hockey when we're in the playoffs.

18. Favorite drink: Milk.

19. Favorite ice cream: low fat mocha-chocolate with almonds

20. Warner Bros. or Disney: Disney

21. Favorite fast food restaurant: A local restaurant that makes great hamburgers and milkshakes. Mmmm.

22. What color is your bedroom: Would you believe taupe and deep red?

23. How many times you failed your driver's test?: Never,hah!


24. Before this one, from whom did you get your last email? Ms. Spam!

25. Which store would you choose to Max out your credit card this week: the Bay, my Daughter wants the latest Olympic wear.

26. What do you do most often when you are bored: Blog, but I do that when I'm not bored too.

27.When is your Bedtime: 11-11:30 pm ideally.

28. Who will respond to this e-mail the quickest?: Hard to say.

29. Who is the person you sent this to that is least likely to respond? My Sister wrote "Carol!" Well, I will show her...

30. Who are you the most curious about their responses to this questionnaire?: Everyone!

31. Favorite TV shows: I Love Lucy! and Seinfeld

32. Last person you went to dinner with: My family! We went to Foody Goody's of course. (Yeah, I know they have changed the name but it will always be Foody Goody to us)

33. Ford or Chevy?: Chevy, duh?

34. What are you listening to right now? Nothing

35. What is your favorite color?: It was orange but I might be changing it!

36. How many tattoos do you have: None but I wouldn't mind a henna tattoo on my ankle, someday.

37. How many pets do you have: I am wondering why my Sister wrote, "None." Last I heard she had a cat and a dog. Hmm. Time to touch base...
I have a cat.

38. Which came first the chicken or the chicken egg?:Definitely the chicken. God created the originals already grown.

39. How many people are you sending this e-mail to: back to my sister so she can eat her words and to all my blog friends.

Envious

Yes, I am feeling a little green as three of my blog buddies have broken out of their blogger templates and are now delighting in their new found beauty.

Its all about content, its all about content...

Go check out Jennifer , Barbara and Stephen's new look!

If anyone has advice to give me on achieving template savvy, let me know. ie web sites on making your own templates or pre-designed ones etc.

Which Sesame Street Character Are You?

Snuffleupagus You scored 54% Organization, 46% abstract, and 55% extroverted!

This test measured 3 variables. First, this test measured how organized you are. Some muppets like Cookie Monster make big messes, while others like Bert are quite anal about things being clean. Second, this test measured if you prefer a concrete or an abstract viewpoint. For the purposes of this test, concrete people are considered to gravitate more to mathematical and logical approaches, whereas abstract people are more the dreamers and artistic type. Third, this test measured if you are more of an introvert or an extrovert. By definition, an introvert concentrates more on herself and an extrovert focuses more on others. In this test an introvert was somebody that either tends to spend more time alone or thinks more about herself. You are somewhat organized, both concrete and abstract, and both introverted and extroverted. I bet you didn't think you were Snuffleupagus. Let's find out why. You are both somewhat organized. You have a good idea where you put things and you probably keep your place reasonably clean. You aren't totally obsessed with neatness though. Alloyius Snuffleupagus (and all Snuffleupagus') is not sloppy by nature, but he moves so incredibly slowly that it is impossible for him to be totally organized. You both are about equally concrete and abstract thinkers. You have a good balance in your life. You know when to be logical at times, but you also aren't afraid to explore your dreams and desires... within limits of course. Snuffy generally has very basic interests, but he explores his abstract sensitive side when he plays his snuffleflute. You both are somewhat introverted. Originally Snuffleupagus was very shy and was only Big Bird's invisible friend. However as he has aged he has started to build new friendships with new characters. Like Snuffy, you probably like to have some time to yourself. However, you do appreciate spending time with your friends, and you aren't scared of social situations. The other possible characters are Oscar the Grouch Big Bird Cookie Monster Ernie Elmo Kermit the Frog Grover The Count Guy Smiley Bert If you enjoyed this test, I would love the feedback! Also if you want to tell me your favorite Sesame Street character, I can total them up and post them here. Perhaps your choice will win!

My test tracked 3 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 18% on Organization You scored higher than 29% on concrete-abstra You scored higher than 29% on intro-extrovert

Link: The Your SESAME STREET Persona Test written by greencowsgomoo on Ok Cupid, home of the 32-Type Dating Test

Who are you?

Hello, my name is Carol and I'm a blogaholic...

Blogaholics Anonymous is a fun webring for bloggers who are zealous for the craft. It is not a twelve step program.

I am going to take a more serious look at the steps and traditions from Alcoholics Anonymous today. When I wrote step 1 last week, it turned out to be a reminder of where I have been and where I don't want to go.

Step 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

Over 20 years ago, I needed a twelve step program. I was presented with the idea that God could help me. I did not expect God to be the answer. This was the beginning of my spiritual life.

Do I think He can restore me to sanity over something as perhaps, trivial, as blogoholism?
I do. I don't want to give it up entirely, just be moderately entranced.

1Corinthian 6:12 "All things are lawful for me, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be mastered by anything."

An Excerpt from a Life

These are excerpts are taken from journals I kept as a teenager in the 70's. I had a huge crush on a fellow I nicknamed Chevy. I was overweight at the time and became convinced that he would like me if I lost weight.

January 8, 1975
I didn't go to school. I feel okay except I have to keep on spitting.

January 9, 1975
I still didn't go to school. Oh man, do I miss Chevy!

January 17, 1975
I went to school for the first time in a long time. I had a ball. Chevy is still super cute.

January 27, 1975
I hate exams!
I hate studying!
I just adore Chevy's eyelashes!
Laurie said she is proud of me cause I lost so much weight. She's proud? I'm bursting with it. When I'm slim, I just know Chevy will like me.

Another Day

We live near the airport flight path. Planes are a part of our view out the kitchen bay window.
Tonight, we heard a loud rumbling.
"What is that?" I heard as my Husband looked out the window and frantically headed for the back door. I followed.
In the northern sky, we saw a plane lit with an orange glow, sparks slowly emanating into the darkness.
It felt unreal; prayers quickly were said. I hugged my daughter as the plane rose and headed back for the airport.
We heard on the radio that everyone was safe.
Thank you.

Ode to a Friend

Even when I don't hear from you
I know that you are there
waiting to hear from me,
dear friend...

Yikes! It is Friendly Friday, I completely forgot...just a moment, stay right here while I find my conductor's hat...




Gasp, my tuba has shrunk...well... it will have to do this week.

Hello my friends! How ya doozing? Are you ready for another fantastic Friday? I can hardly wait to see who this week's friendless sites are! Yes, well...um, give me another minute,'kay?


Ahem, I thought I would try a thematic approach this week. I like poetry, so this week, I have found a couple of poet bloggers. They both are enjoyable but the site of the week I chose is the one on the left ;)

Xtessa is the featured site of the week.
I like her blog because:

• her poetry is personal, seeking honesty with herself
• her words are positive and hopeful
  
• she has a peaceful template
  
• but more poetry updates please

Also, please go and discover the depths of Uncle David's poems.

I also came across this site which all poets will appreciate. This is not a friendless site but you will enjoy Blogging Poets.

Band members, please help me find more friendless sites, my bookmarks are getting low! Also, don't hesitate to get the Friends of the Friendless Marching Band banner.

Have fun and make a lot of noise. See ya later!

A Bad Day

My Son was excited this morning that a friend had invited him over after school so I was surprised to see him at the door this afternoon. His friend decided to do something else. As a result, he was in a growly mood. When I told him what his chore was, he protested loudly and ended up being grounded from the computer and television.
He calmed down after supper but still hoped to get back on the computer. He decided to play with a train set that should be given away as it is too young for him.
I was looking for him this evening and my Husband called from our bedroom that he was in there.
I opened the door to find the two of them bent over my Husband's more sophisticated train set.

It is good to be reminded that things work out for the best, eventually.

CPR

Today, I took a Cardiopulmonary Resuscitation Basic Rescuer course.
Take this quiz. Perhaps, you would like to sign up, too.

Clearer

I have lost 7/8 Battle of the Blogs. This is a game on Blog Explosion where you pit your blog against another in hopes of being voted the best.

Carol, what are you doing??

Anyways after being defeated so many times, I went on the Member's Forum to ask what was the matter. It seems that the game is more about form and template (or chance. One fellow said he votes for the blogs on the left side of the screen some of the time and those on the right the other times).

I breathed a sigh before it hit me, this is life and relationships. Many people are attracted to others because of form and template, the shape of the body, the beauty, clothes and eloquence.

I am glad they thought the content was good (smile) but the orange, well...Perhaps the orange will go, along with the font variations. I mean, it wouldn't hurt to get a new wardrobe and hairstyle.

Then, I look back over my years and have to almost laugh when I think of the people that have walked by me, all because they didn't like my form and template.

But I realize, the content has always been good.

Hey, Blogger...yeah you, can you spare a dime or at least drop a comment in the plate. It gets pretty lonely here on the park bench, y'know. Sit down, I'll get a fire blazing in the barrel and we can visit, just like old times. Hey, don't leave before 30 secon....whoa there...yes I can run, those crutches are only for the sympathy votes...come on, sit down, I'm not going to hurt you, just wear out your ear for a minute before you move on...

Ariel


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Oh Ariel,
carefully crawling the depths
head and fins reaching for the sky
with a patient smile
as she notices the sharks
playing in the dark

Hallowe'en

When our children were small, my Husband and I had to decide whether or not our children would participate in Hallowe'en. I had a problem with its origins while my Husband did not. He did not want to make me go against my beliefs, so he agreed that they wouldn't partake in this popular festivity.

Most years,the children would stay at home when they had the class party. Then in the evening it became our tradition to eat out and do something special such as a movie. They look forward to this time still. They don't feel deprived. It has taught them that they don't have to be like everyone else.

"And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;" Colossians 3:23

Excerpt from a Life

These journal entries, which I take out of the chest every Saturday, started in 1974. I had a serious crush on a boy I called Chevy and started losing weight in hopes of gaining his attention.

January 7, 1975
"I didn't go to school yesterday or today. I went to the hospital outpatients. I might have an ulcer in my stomach. I don't know for sure but I do worry about Chevy, losing weight...almost anything.
I weigh 160 lbs now. That's a loss of 25 lbs altogether. I'd say, I'm doing pretty good, wouldn't you?"

Friends of the Friendless Matching Game

Barbara of Trying to Catch Up is the winner of today's friendly matching game! She is the newest member of the band, the flutist.

I like her blog because:

• I really like her sense of humor
  
• she likes books, philosophy and singing
  
• she has a son who blogs
• she has a banner for FFMB, yahoo
• she is an enthusiastic band member
  

Friendly Friday

• 

Hello Friends of the Friendless Marching Band.

Today, we are going to have another "Get Aquainted" game. Below are listed all the band members and across from the names are the instruments. Match the member to their instrument and leave your answers in the comment section. The first to get most of them correct will be featured at the end of this Friendly Friday with "what I like about their blog" and a link to their site.

You don't have to be a band member to play but feel free to sign up for the FFMB if you wish by choosing an instrument.

Carol------------------------baritone
Mompoet-------------------majorette
Mango--------------------- tuba player
Marti----------------------- accordionist
Kenju----------------------- kazooist
Stephen--------------------- pianist
Zeb-------------------------- drummer
K8--------------------------- flutist
Raehan--------------------- another drummer
Pearl------------------------ clarinetist
Barbara--------------------- guitarist
True Jersey Girl------------ Korean drums

The following are links which will help you answer the above questions. Go here, here and finally here.
Remember, I will be checking at the end of the day to see who the lucky blogger is!

At the end of the day-
Hey FFMB, I guess I stumped the lot of you!

So I will tell you what I like about my blog:

• it is like a variety show ie. will the post be silly, poetic, religious, anxious, what?
• the sideblog of reviews and "current reads"
  
• the "Pretty Women" short story and not because of all the hits the name generates
• the weird orange color
• you gotta admit, Carol is a friendly and persevering conductor for the Friends of the Friendless Marching Band.
  

See ya next week and remember, I always need more friendless submissions.
To get the FFMB banner, look here.